Thought I’d do a little blog post on how I’ve found pregnancy 2nd time round!
So today I am 40+1 🙌🏽 I was 4 days early with Aoife so because I only had that to compare to, I did think I would have this baby before due date but you just never know do you! Coincidentally I had a curry the night I went into labour with Aoife, so in my naive little head I was like YAS GET ME A BALTI AND ILL BE ON MY WAY AGAIN. Absolutely does not work like that 😂 Ate my balti and NADA. It’s not going to stop me having another one today for lunch though is it 🙌🏽 #wishfulthinking. Everyone tells you their stories of what ‘definitely’ worked for them, but that’s the thing, it worked for them so I take it all with a pinch of salt. You just do you boo.
Going back…we had my 12 week scan 3 weeks before lockdown so Sean was able to come, whereas my 20 week scan was bang slap in the middle of lockdown so no partners allowed. I really didn’t mind because I’m very much of the mindset it is what it is. Hospitals are places where vulnerable people are so of course they’re going to want to limit the people who are entering. The only thing that’s bothering me about Covid…is that I can’t use my free dental treatment because my dentist isn’t doing routine appointments dammit 😂
When I last wrote a blog I was 16 weeks pregnant so there is a lot to catch up on! I am always apprehensive for pregnancies because although you announce at 12 weeks, the 20 week scan is when they check for abnormalities so anything could still happen. I conceived in St Lucia, which is one of the countries which *had* the zika virus (they hadn’t had any cases inside or outside the country for a few years – I checked) so I was a little bit nervous just incase. Luckily everything was fine at the scan and baby looked healthy with a normal sized head 🙌🏽
Bump popped out around 26 weeks I would say, and then that’s when I started getting pelvic girdle pain/SDP. I didn’t wear a belt because I don’t think it helped last time, and I didn’t go for physio either for the same reason BUT I have heard positive stories of using these things so definitely try them. I’ve since been recommended acupuncture for it which next pregnancy, I’m definitely trying out! I’m a sucker for pain relief so stick those needles in meh!
At 30 weeks, we got a 4d scan. I really recommend getting one because it brings the pregnancy so much more to life! I mean, it was expensive at £95 I think but totally worth it. Normally I would have gone for the 10 minute £45 appointment, but they’d suspended all the cheaper costing appointments the sneaky devils so the more expensive one it was. If you can wait until around 30 weeks for a scan, it’s better as the baby has set down enough fat so they look babyish if that makes sense! I went to Ultrasound direct and they were lovely. The baby looked exactly like Aoife did on her 4d scan😍 I still can’t get over the fact there will be another child that looks like Aoife but isn’t Aoife. Mad tings.
Generally, I’ve felt okay during my pregnancy. Oh Jesus, I’ve just remembered I felt VERY sick from 6 weeks till about 11 weeks, just nauseous but boy it was a killer. I’ve also had heartburn a lot more this time that I only get in pregnancy, which feels like someone sticking a hot poker up your throat from your tummy. I had some peptac from the docs from Aoife’s pregnancy so I’ve been taking that which helps a lot! Aoife decided lockdown was when she would nap religiously so I’ve managed most days to have a one/two hour nap. She is an absolute non stop ball of energy so I found just getting out and doing a range of activities helped me to keep going!!
Feelings wise – I’ve got the classic ‘oh my gaaaad how could I possibly love another child as much as I love Aoife?’ but if my mum can have five and love us all the same (me a little bit more obvs) then I’m sure I’ll be fine. I’m not worried about coping because I think I just deal with what’s in front of me so I’m excited to see what having two children brings! It does perplex me how you look after a terror of a toddler whilst looking after a baby out in public but I’ll figure it out ha!
Lots of people have asked me about Aoife and is she excited but she’s too young really slash not in the slightest bit interested ha. She’ll turn two the month after baby is born. I’ve got her a little teddy bear to give her from the baby and I’m excited to see what she’s like when they’re here!
Next up is packing a hospital bag! Oh lord, I put this on Instagram however what I realised is a hospital bag is totally personal to you so you won’t want everyone’s suggestions because lots aren’t relevant to you. There are obviously basics that you’ll need to take but after that, it’s whatever’s comfortable for you. I’ve checked my hospital and we’re allowed visitors so I don’t want to take a lot because CBA really, Sean can bring things if I need more. I’m not into candles, aromatherapy or music so mine is a basic AF bag.
- Dressing gown
- Nighties x2
- Pants X5
- Incontinence pants X10
- Nursing bras X3
- Shower gel
- Nipple cream
- Hair bands
- Antibacterial wipes/gel
- Baby vests X3
- Babygros x3
- Going home outfit
- Hats X2
- Nappies X10
- Baby wipes
- Plastic bag for dirty clothes
- Water bottle
I’m probably going to pack some chocolate/Frusili bars just incase, but I didn’t pack any snacks last time and I survived!
Birth plan wise – just go with the flow. Epidural fo sho. Hate when people say ‘try it without, you’ll surprise yourself’ JOG ON. Why don’t you try it with? I’m literally not going through pain when I don’t have to 💁🏽♀️ I didn’t use gas and air for a while with Aoife because I thought it would make me feel drunk and I haaaaate that feeling but actually it was frigging heaven so get me on that gas and air STAT. Other than that, wipe the baby before you give it to me (all that blood and gunk no fank u) and that’s it! My midwife keeps asking me if I want a home birth and I’m like NOPE, as I said, I’m a sucker for pain relief so i’d rather be in a hospital and as well just incase something god forbid happened, I’m in the best place. I never got round to doing hypnotherapy, but I found with Aoife, just breathing through each contraction worked well for me. No shouting or anything, no one talking to me through a contraction either because that was annoying 🙈 I just needed to concentrate on getting through that bit.
I’ve loved my pregnancy again, and I am unbelievably excited to meet the new addition!
Any other questions, just holla at ya gyal 🙋🏽♀️💗
Lots of love,
Francesca, Aoife & Bump x